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Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Yes, Guys CAN be GoldDiggers Too!

So not too long ago, I lent money to a guy I was seeing at the time. Now keep these factors in mind, 1. I had never loaned money to a date before. 2. I had only met the guy a week and a half ago. 3. I said to myself "well, why not give it a try? maybe this will turn out ok." BAD,bad, Bad idea! I can't stress this enough! Not only did I inconvenience myself so that I as a single mom was short on cash, but the guy refused to pay me back. In fact he went so far as to say he meant to rip me off the entire time even though he had originally promised to pay double the amount back! I discussed this issue with several friends including my male mentors...and the bottom line is, never EVER loan money to any guy you are in a relationship with. Being in a relationship with someone complicates things in the financial department. More likely than not, the guy/girl will not feel the need to pay you back. After all, they are supposed to be special to you, they rationalize and with the backrubs they give you or the times they wash your car, it will eventually all even out. Besides ladies, look at it this way. If you are with a guy who needs to borrow money from you, your are with the wrong man! He needs to take care of you, NOT the other way around! And p.s. I ended having to have my lawyer get my money back...but who wants all the drama? Sigh..until next time folks. :)

Monday, December 13, 2010

Jar of Hearts

And who do you think you are
Running 'round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart
You're gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul..These are the lyrics from the popular song by Christina Perri. True its melancholy, but how many of you have jumped from relationship to relationship or known a friend who does this habitually? Most people have a lot of shallow flings with the idea that they aren't ready to settle down. Therefore they try to go on as many dates as they can with each date more intense than the one before. What people don't realize is that every relationship be it a one night stand, a 3 date jig, or a 3 month "ltr" takes a part of of them with it. So whether or not, the "breakup" was mutual, or you iniated the distance, you still invested part of yourself. Just be careful that while you are having a great time dating all the Kens or Barbies that you don't end up with a jar of crushed hearts, a bitter soul, and every bit of your heart given away.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010



"Character is like a tree and reputation like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing." So said the great Abraham Lincoln. I have been thinking about a person's character a lot lately. What generates respect for a person in our society today and what totally diminishes it? Dwight Eisenhower also said, The qualities of a great man are "vision, integrity, courage, understanding, the power of articulation, and profundity of character."
How many of us can truly say we have all those qualities? Think about the people that we have personal relationships with. Do you have the courage to stand up to them when they suggest activities that compromise your integrity? Does your life reflect what you truly believe or is it a shadow of society's profile for a "normal, average" person?
Dare to understand yourself, your flaws and your virtues. Don't be afraid to be you. When the shadow of death lies over you and you reflect on your life, let it be a time of rejoicing..of recognizing that you embodied you...your own unique self that held firm to what you knew was right...depart with an autobiography that can be read and treasured by all.



Friday, November 19, 2010

Who is Bitter, the Truth or I?

So apparently a couple of guys thought my previous blog was directed towards them. So I solemnly swear (right hand raised) that everything posted was from personal experience and not directed towards anyone in particular....To my readers...the purpose of this blog is to explore the complexities of love..be it the love of music, chocolate, movies, games, and the interesting relations between a man and a woman. I will write according to my mood and muse..the contributions of you, my darlings...are greatly appreciated be it negative or postive...this is my way of releasing all the thoughts that continuously swirl through my head and letting you experience the world a little from my point of view. :) And if anyone has a problem with this...please refer to the disclaimer above. :)

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Guys-How Do They Get Away With It All?

Sooo..I'm beginning to think that all guys should be hooked up to lie detectors the first weeks into a relationship. At least on the first date..I mean really, what is up with the caliber of men out there now a days? Why is it that whenever a girl finds a guys who is decently attractive and appears to have a good job, career etc., she soon finds out A. He has already been married once or twice. B. He really is unemployed. C. He thinks world of warcraft is the real world. D. His buddies' opinions mean more than yours and he is permanently attached to them. E. He really does think he deserves Eva Longoria. and F. He needs constant reassurance that he is good enough for you. I could go on all night, but ladies, you get the idea! Why can't guys be honest and straightforward from day one, so two or three weeks in, there isn't that awkward, "Yeah, I'm not really into long-distance relationships," or "Yeah, I was really hoping for Megan Fox.." Comments anyone? Don't be afraid to defend yourself guys. :)

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Video Games

So I'm sure everyone knows someone who is addicted to video games. Me? I know several. It seems like every time us kids get together, there will be four or five guys down in the basement, shooting it out. I have in an attempt to be "cool" gone and sat down and tried my best to figure out whats going on. Does it work? Hell no! First of all, the guys are talking code to one another and don't bother to ask what they are saying as they will only reply with an annoyed glance. The high tech machinery, the fabulous graphics, and the fast paced movement of the games is intriguing and completely mind boggling. Yet I foolishly decided to try and play..Let's just say that I was helplessly lost within 5 secs. and literally did not know if I was upside down or right side up in the game.  My competitors killed me mercilessly and I ran head on into the majority of the scenery. Aughhh...yet these games do bring a relative degree of peace to the rest of us ladies as we do our own thing knowing our men will be occupied for a long, long time. Great Christmas presents for the man in your life who will look you straight in the eye and really mean it when he says thank you. :p

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